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DON’T MARRY HIM

You think you love the guy. You even think he's marriage material.

He says all the right things, but over time ... you begin to notice that his actions don't match his words. He tells you that he respects you, but dismisses your opinions. He claims he wants a shared relationship between the two of you, but then he makes all the decisions.

Sorry, ladies ... these are the behaviors of a "loser."

We've learned from over 33 years of marriage research conducted around the world that ignoring the warning signs of a loser comes at great risk to your health, happiness, and welfare. Heed the warning signs ... before it's too late.

Our favorite question for a woman whose marriage has failed is: "Why? ... What went wrong? Why do you think your marriage failed?"

The answer is almost always the same: "I thought I could fix him."

There is one truth you can take to the bank, and that is: you CANNOT change a man! Either accept him the way he is—warts and all—or move on.
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